    
Angel^Starlight
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, March 26, 2004 - 11:50 am: | 
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I'm 22 now, lost my virginity at 19 (and still with the guy I lost it to)... He had had one partner before me, and I made him wait 2 years until I felt I was ready. He teases me now about "if you knew how good it was going to be you probably wouldn't have waited so long.." and actually, I still would have, and here's my reasoning for such:
1) are you completely comfortable going into a store and buying condoms? if not, then wait until you are.
2) If you end up pregnant, are you financially stable to support a child and are ready to give up a good chunk of your social life to it? Are you emotionally stable enough to deal with loss through abortion, miscarriage, or adoption? If no is the answer to any of those, it's probably not the time.
3)Are you concerned about what your parents would think if they found out? If you are you probably aren't emotionally ready...
4) Are you uncomfortable being around him when he's nude, or are uncomfortable being nude around him? That's not ready for sex...
5)Do you honestly want to have to go sneaking around just so you can find some alone-time to have sex? Constantly worried about being walked in on (which isn't fun mind you)?
I wanted to wait to have sex not for the whole ideological "I have morals! Sex is love! Blah blah blah!" even though I do love my boyfriend and do believe in monogamy (or as close to monogamy as one can get in this day and age), but for logical reasons. I wanted to have fun without having to worry about any reprocussions from anyone else... I wanted to be mature enough to get the protection I needed (in both condom and pill form), and I wanted to be old enough where if by any chance I did become pregnant, I'd be able to still live my life. I watched my best friend have 3 kids before she turned 21...she lives with her parents and works at a nursing home...I gotta say I have bigger ambitions than that. Some people can be happy with little education and a not too lucrative career...I'm not one of them. |
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