    
Steve
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, April 09, 2004 - 02:26 pm: | 
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Ok, I'll give an insight from another perspective? Im a guy who has only been with the woman Im married to. We did have sex before we were married, but I knew she was the one I would marry and planned on it. Ok, she was only 16 and I had just turned 20. A friend of the family kind of situation. She had been involved with a guy sexually before me and I knew that. Although I was bothered by it, I didnt let it keep me from persuing her because I was in love with her. To ease the pain I told her I had been with someone else before as well. Ok, my first advice, be completely honest with your partner about your sexual experiences. However, strangely enough it gave me a false sense of gratification knowing she thought this. I almost came to believe it myself. We've been married married now for just over 10 years, and the feelings re-surfaced to the point I had to let her know she was the "one". I didnt know what I was in for! It was supposed to be something special that I would share with her? But to my surprise after all these years of marriage, I became jealous, insecure with myself, and haunted with images of the woman I love with another guy. She was only 15 when she had this relationship, and claims to regret it badly. She did it out of pressure and acceptance. She claims she was never pleasured by him and it was over before you knew it. Also left with the feeling it meant nothing to him, no more than just getting off. She knew right away she didnt really love him, but it went on for awhile. She said when she got together with me she knew she found true love and sex was different like night and day. Second advice, dont do anything out of anything less than true love or it may effect you down the road, and even others you now truely love. I dont care what people say here about sex not being something sacred. Thats a matter of opinion I guess. It is however, something that should only be shared by two people that love each other and equally. If there's anybody that has a similar experience and has helpful advice in dealing with something like this, please write me. Thanks. |
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